What is This?
You’re sitting there, tears falling over freshly dried tears, wondering how on earth you got to this place. Whatever your this is, it feels like hell. It feels like nothing is ever going to be right again. Maybe you’ve done everything right. Maybe you’ve done everything wrong. I’ve been on both sides of the right or the wrong of the “this.”
Whatever happened, this was nowhere in the original plan. Whatever happened, you’ve been finally, fully startled awake.
My THIS List:
Here is my lifetime “this” list (so far):
- Sexual assault
- Financial ruin
- Being cheated on
- Being deceived
- Deceiving others
- Facing Cancer
- Losing a job
- Losing family members
- Almost losing a child to suicide
- Losing a ministry
- Being in an abusive relationship
That’s the short list.
I was talking with a friend recently and he gave me some amazing advice that I want to pass along.
- People change only when there are no more options.
- Start forgiving right now so you can start to heal. Don’t wait.
- Move on.
My Dad always taught me that I need to:
- “face reality squarely,” (Job 38)
- “live a life that pleases God,” (Colossians 1:10), and
- “separate the precious from the worthless.” (Jeremiah 15:19)
So I’m suggesting that right this minute you should begin to sift through the rubble, call it what it is – rubble, own your part in what happened, retrieve the precious, and walk away from the worthless.
I’ve learned by experience (mostly by falling on my face) that the Lord really does work all things for my good because he has called me according to his purpose and I’ve tried to live my life with a “yes, Lord” posture. (Romans 8:28)
Sift. Separate. Own your part. Pray. Forgive yourself. Forgive others. Do it quickly. Ask God “what’s next?”. Move forward.
This, too, really shall pass. But you’ve got to get up out of the rubble.
And if you need to talk, my ears are always open and I’m always up for some good conversation over a skinny vanilla latte.